I am an extrovert by nature. Like 81% on my Myers-Briggs Personality Test. When I was younger, I thought the spotlight was always on me. Dancing, singing, stealing my siblings friends (and annoying them to all end) was just what I did on the daily. Throughout high school, I can’t imagine a weekend that I spent alone – unaccompanied by another human – ever. I loved it.
And then college happened. The first year – not so bad. I was able to juggle the social life and school and my stress fairly well. Second year – not much different. Third year – a little more social life and a little more stress. But I LOVED being around people still and every single thing I did brought me so much happiness that I couldn’t give anything up – including the time I needed to myself. My senior year of college I spent mainly in my bedroom watching Netflix while I finished school work, and I stopped being the one to plan the events and coordinate schedules so the most people could make it.
It was so freeing to just breathe.
The last two years I have enjoyed this new-found balance I’ve had. I still love to plan get togethers and events, but I don’t feel the need to do it every weekend. My best friends are the ones where we can sit in silence, have deep life chats, or have uncontrollable laughter from the silliest things. I feel so healthy and so happy when I can take time to myself.
There’s something about spending an evening by yourself once a week, or even a full day on the weekend, to re-charge.
My challenge to all you who made it to the bottom of this post is this: find a night this week for you to spend by yourself. Go for a walk. Paint a picture. Read a book. Do something that relaxes and recharges you. Reset your brain. Turn your phone off and just breathe. It’s okay and it’s healthy for you to do this. And you deserve it.
If you don’t know where to start I’ve compiled a list of 15 things to do by yourself:
- Go to a local museum
- Explore a new store in your town
- Take a bath or hot shower
- Go to the movies
- Pick out a new book and start reading
- Learn a new recipe
- Take a fitness class
- Find a fun DIY craft on Pinterest
- Have a spa night
- Binge on a new TV show
- Go for a walk at a new park
- Go for a hike
- Shop til you drop
- Write in your journal
- Re-decorate a room in your house
Now mark your alone time in your calendar and make it a routine!