I’ve been thinking about what to write for my first blog post for a long time. I’ve started probably 4 different blog sites so far and always was too distracted to keep up with it. This time is different though. This time I felt the push and the desire to share with the world my thoughts and words and be consistent with it.
I want this blog to be a home to my thoughts, and others thoughts, about living your life when you finish high school or college and your life isn’t mapped out for you anymore. It’s messy, beautiful, hard, stressful, fun, and exciting.
There are many lessons learned in these years, but there is one lesson that I will never forget and seems to follow me wherever I go.
Be True To You.
No matter where I am, what I am doing, or who I am interacting with, I never want to be dishonest to myself about who I am. It’s a really hard lesson when you are constantly being told how to act, what to say, how to negotiate, how to read people. And while all of that is important, I believe that being YOU is more important than the textbook responses.
I’ll let you in on a little secret – I have anxiety. With anxiety, I get really nervous about what others will think of me or how I come off to other people. I am anxious thinking about my image in front of others (probably why I haven’t taken many pictures in the last few years of myself) and I am anxious about what I say. While taking communications classes I was taught that what you say, the words you choose, how you look, is more important than you think. While this IS true, it made me nervous to ever be goofy, make jokes, and even snort when I laugh.
Here’s the better secret – people want to know YOU. They will notice the way you say things and they will notice if you didn’t do something right, but if you let them know YOU, they will look past everything and love the goofy things you do that make you, You.
So if you’re struggling to show who you really are to others and be yourself around your friends, just let go of the thoughts of others and be truly you. Make that horrible joke. Take the unflattering selfie. Ask the important questions. Above all else, be true to yourself. Don’t do things you don’t want to do just because you think everyone will like you for it.
Be True To You.
“If You Can Dance & Be Free & Not Be Embarrassed, You Can Rule the World” – Amy Poehler